Starve YOUR EGO, Feed YOUR SOUL
Becoming a better Person | Patriot Lay Ministries® 12/01/23
Many people today wonder why relationships have not gone in a good direction. Many have fought against the one they love only to separate or worse, divorce. These situations can leave many helpless victims, namely children in a marriage or other family members that came to like and love the other person that was once the one you loved. Resolving the fight against the other is very important but the one fight above all is paramount to resolve is that within our own selves. That within us is none other than our own EGO.
Submission will, in turn, give us greater understanding and compassion for those under our leadership. We will not be able to talk of submission in a light and trivial manner, as if there’s no cost. We can be the gentle leader we are called to be, because we understand the weightiness of submission from practicing it ourselves. [FN1]
Submission will give all of us a renewed sense of gratitude for what Jesus suffered on our behalf. While in tears and agony, he asked his Father, He went away again a second time and prayed, saying, “My Father, if this cup cannot pass away unless I drink from it, Your will be done.” (Matt. 26:42). [FN2]
Generational Errors
Many fear the words ‘submission and submit’. For many generations those words have stricken fear, anger, resentment, hatred, rebellion in people’s hearts and minds.
Ephesians 5:21 and subject yourselves to one another in the [b]fear of Christ.
Lit being submissive to; Or reverence for: These contextual connotations have nothing to do with lording over, ruling over another. Respect and honor given to in loyalty towards one another. [FN3]
Women have already be subjected to submission for generation. However, Men have fallen by the way-side in obfuscation of their pert in submission. Generationally, Ephesians 5:21 has not been a focal point of preaching, teaching, and generalized discussion because it’s a hot topic that no one desires to even touch. For some ministries, to even preach upon this passage of scripture renders no money and no support given.
From and out of real true love comes submission. Even in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship you are working towards that ultimate submission towards each other. As a male, you are to give her, your girlfriend something to commit to and that is your loyalty. There is no other way. From that surrender of loyalty comes the love that must cement, join the two of you together than no one else can break a part.
You are One Flesh, not two separate people in a relationship. A husband, a boyfriend that submits to God will also in obedience submit to his girlfriend or wife. This shows how equal he is to her and that he’s not above her but stands beside her holding her hand in loving honor and respect. If a boy or a man wishes that their girlfriend or wife will reciprocate that same submission then he must lead and be that example to her. When in the confines of a family unit, doing so will show the children an example of what it is to be a Godly Person, more so with boys to fathers this will definitely lead them in the right direction instead of falling for the bull-crap that’s scattered all over the Internet. (We know how things are online and there’s some pretty disgusting ideologies and beliefs published and that’s what we have to put up with here in America due to our First Amendment).
Loving Sacrificial Submission
When a man is married whether on paper or by vowed decree of love outside of official documentation he must dissolve his past habits of hanging with the boys all the time. It’s a part of the surrendering submission that occurs in the acts of a relationship. No longer can a man act like a college frat-boy.
A boyfriend is supposed to spend more time with his girlfriend outside of his own family life and if, work life. The same is true for husbands but more so when children are involved. His time ought to be spent in the raising of his children and helping to alleviate some of the burdens of his wife when he’s scheduled off of work.
The Servant’s Heart
This portion of the relationship backs up what was previously stated above. A man is supposed to want to serve his wife not only with love, loyalty, honor, and respect; But more so in doing for her, caring for her, giving her respite. Going out on scheduled Date Nights, doing things in a more private setting that cannot be mentioned her of course (HEY! WE GOTTA KEEP IT GODLY NOW! LOL!), the little things that will benefit both greatly in the emotional department. Plus in this service to her with all that you do and are open to doing will keep your marriage young and lively. So many couples once they’ve reached a certain level or years of marriage things begin to go stale and cold. Do you really want that to happen? Honest question for both.
Godly Submission
Submission to God, is the act, the rendering of acknowledgment of His power, glory, grace, and mercy; but most of all His eternal sovereignty. Submission to each other does not mean that we are doormats or that we never question each other. Even God is big enough to take your questioning Him. So men, don’t act like you are all pious and big-headed. Show your wives, show your girlfriends that you are meek enough to handle their questioning. Be open and honest not only to her but yourselves. Heck, question yourselves as men and boys. This is called Self-reflection and it will lead you straight to the Judgment Seat of the Death of Your Ego. Be prepared, it will not be easy, it will be hard.
Note: it was the hardest thing that I’ve ever had to endure and I surrendered to my own Self-reflection out of Free Will because I accepted the call from God/Jesus to go through and endure my own Trial and Conviction. I came out of it a NEW MAN. A more humble Man. A refreshed Man. I no longer retained all that rage and bitterness that I once had towards women. Yes, I was cheated on once in my last relationship and I held on to all of that toxic emotion. No longer do I have all of that inside of me. My own Ego was challenged and it suffered a grave death.
Remember, Displaying Godly submission as a husband for his wife is not a display of weakness, but of strength under God. [FN5]
Want to be The Best Godly Submissive Man?
Men, you are the spiritual head of the Home. Your wives are the Leaders of your children and decides how the Home looks and operates. Men, we are to decide the Spiritual Direction of the family. Without a Spiritual Head, the body breaks down. Showing submission to God is our first charge as men. Our second charge is to love in loyalty by surrendering that love and loyalty towards our wives.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands also ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, 30 because we are parts of His body. 31 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. 32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless, as for you individually, each husband is to love his own wife the same as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.
Ephesian Chapter 5 25:33
Men are to LOVE their wives in submission to God and as a help-mate. In Genesis 2:18 [FN 6] Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” God did not create woman to be a slave. Our Ego would tell us otherwise in an age of disobedience led by ideologies that are contrary to what God has set for in His Word.
Peace within Relationships and the Home.
Doesn’t everyone desire to have peace ever-flowing within their relationships and marriages? If you say no, then their avenues of help available for you to seek out. Having drama abound is insanity in it’s raw form of definition. Keep doing the same thing over and over again. Through our submission to God and enacting that submission with obedience with the leadership role that has been bestowed upon us by God; or partners, our wives with will surely see God/Jesus within us. We cannot allow our Egos to get the best of us. Our Egos will inflame any situation and destroy the very foundation we have no matter how weak or how strong that foundation is.
As men, we must continually work upon ourselves to rid ourselves of all toxicity (bad/evil behaviors) that may come about. Working with the women that we love, not against them is showing God that we bow in appreciation of giving us that ‘Helpmate/helper’ via the Woman. Women are the most precious gift outside of our Lord and Savior (Yeshua) Jesus Christ. He made them to be the bringers of life via our Posterity (children).
We may fall but we must pick ourselves up. We may utterly fail in our obedience to God but that’s what Jonah and the Prodigal Son faced. We must rely on God’s grace and mercy, and forgiveness to renew ourselves. In our repentance, we find our way back to Him. We are all sinner but have you become one saved through the shed blood of The Lamb that is (Yeshua) Jesus Christ? Don’t let/allow your Ego become the devil of your destruction.
”God through faith in Jesus Christ for all those who believe; for there is no distinction, 23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, 24 being justified as a gift by His grace through the redemption which is in Christ Jesus,”
Romans 3:22-24 [FN7]
I close with this message:
In order to make any Nation-Country of People ‘GREAT AGAIN’, we first must make ourselves as Men, Obedient and Submissive to God Again. When we as men surrender ourselves before God in obedience to Him then we shall be blessed with peace in ourselves then in our Homes. Girlfriends and Wives will receive the same blessing of peace within. Our children will enjoy the same. Our communities will be revived once again with a true purpose of Faith, not a political one filled with unholy Ideologies that destroy everything in their paths. Men and Women, Male and Female must come together as ONE for Our Children’s sake and the many generations to come. This world is full of Lost Souls that not only need to be saved but need proper guidance through proper leadership and that where us men come in at.
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For More Great Breakdowns visit the following God filled websites:
#1. FOR MEN: 5 Transformational Steps: How to Be a Godly Submissive Husband (2023): A Guide for Men Greg Gaines | October 9, 2023
#2. FOR MEN: CHRISTIAN LIVING Men, Are You Submissive?
SEPTEMBER 30, 2021 | MICHAEL J. KRUGER
#3. FOR BOTH MEN & WOMEN: Six Things Submission Is Not: Leadership and submission in marriage are beautiful, but the roles can be applied poorly. John Piper shares six things submission to a husband is not. Article by John Piper - Founder & Teacher, desiringGod.org
#4. FOR WOMEN & MEN: Dispelling Our Fear of Submission Article by Liz Wann - Regular contributor NOVEMBER 12, 2015
Footnote Citations of Credit (borrowed):
[FN1] Text: https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/men-are-you-submissive/#:~:text=submission%20will%2C%20in,practicing%20it%20ourselves.
[FN2] Text: https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/men-are-you-submissive/#:~:text=submission%20will%20give,26%3A42).
[FN3] Text: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ephesians+5%3A21&version=NASB
[FN4] Image: https://jesusleadershiptraining.com/how-to-be-a-godly-submissive-husband-a-guide-for-men/
[FN5] Text: https://jesusleadershiptraining.com/how-to-be-a-godly-submissive-husband-a-guide-formen/#:~:text=Displaying%20Godly%20submission%20as%20a%20husband%20for%20his%20wife%20is%20not%20a%20display%20of%20weakness%2C%20but%20of%20strength%20under%20God.
[FN 6] https://www.biblegateway.com/quicksearch/?quicksearch=help+mate&version=NASB
[FN7] Text: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Romans+3&version=NASB#:~:text=God%20through%20faith%20in%20Jesus%20Christ%20for%20all%20those%20%5Br%5Dwho%20believe%3B%20for%20there%20is%20no%20distinction%2C%2023%C2%A0for%20all%20%5Bs%5Dhave%20sinned%20and%20fall%20short%20of%20the%20glory%20of%20God%2C%2024%C2%A0being%20justified%20as%20a%20gift%20by%20His%20grace%20through%20the%20redemption%20which%20is%20in%20Christ%20Jesus%2C
Starve YOUR EGO, Feed YOUR SOUL : Becoming a better Person
Patriot Lay Ministries® 12/01/23